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October 6, 2011

Some more reading on the web for you, my lovelies:

In honour of the new movie, What’s Your Number?, the New Yorker breaks down the stock characters of the almighty Rom Com, thus displaying how stupid these movies really are.

Meanwhile, the Calgary Herald joined in the What’s Your Number? (soon to be the worst movie in America, no doubt) hate with this piece about why it’s stupid to judge people based on how many sex partners they’ve had.

Speaking of sex partners, our old friends at Jezebel do their part to dispell the myth that ladies are never down for the one-night stand- at least, while they’re in college (and be sure to read the comments!)

And on the subject of college, the Globe and Mail is here to make sure that you know that you needn’t bother, because you won’t be making any money anyway.

And speaking of not making money, JD Samson of Le Tigre offers this painful but refreshingly candid piece revealing the reality of being a “successful” musician, courtesy of the Huffington Post.

And now, since I hate to end on a downer:
CUTE ANIMAL BUTTS!

-Rae

September 20, 2011

Holy nuts! I can’t believe how far behind we’ve fallen! Bad blogger (slapping self on wrist)!

Well, I’m sure we’ll have something to post here shortly, but in the meantime, here’s some stuff I hope to get back to:

The Etiquette of Close Quarters

Gaslighting: A Message to Women From a (Sympathetic) Man

A (Questionable, but Effective) Rape Analogy

Spread the love and support!

-Rae

July 14, 2011

This looks like a helpful website.

Less sure about this one.

Meanwhile, what do you think? Does this work for getting rid of guys, too?

-Rae

July 7, 2011

For the record, I agree with everything here:

The Frisky: Learn From the Dating Mistakes I Made In My Twenties

In other news, I have a backlog of links to post, some from way back when, so let’s start with GuySpeak.

Why Wouldn’t a Guy Want To Get Into A Gurl’s (really? “Gurl?”) Pants?

Are Low-Maintenance Girls the Equivalent of Nice Guys? (never really been entirely clear on what that means. Is this one of those “women are like cars” things?)

Something Something Fingering

And 47 Reasons He Hasn’t Called

Moving on to a Jezebel piece about a dating site for Beautiful People (and hackers)

And finally, Cracked!

You Don’t Know Jack About Women (you really don’t)…

…except you totally do. Best Romantic Advice Piece Ever.

“If you need a bowl of pudding and irritable bowl syndrome to bring yourself to climax, you should stop sleeping with ugly people you hate.” 7 Things That Don’t Mix With Anything.

And finally, to get you in the frame of mind for the next blog post: Romantic Movie Gestures That Are Actually Dick Moves.

Happy Reading!

-Rae

June 20, 2011

Happy belated Father’s Day!

On an unrelated note, Larry David!

Just… Larry David.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/06/17/larry-david-talks-divorce_n_879579.html?ir=Entertainment

-Rae

June 13, 2011

Apologies for the gap between posts. I’ve been distracted, and Princess T has been very busy. We’ll post a new blog very soon, I promise, but for now, please enjoy this latest link dump.

As I’ve mentioned before, I think it’s important for women (and, what the hell, men) not to think of themselves as a victim all the time. We live in the world we choose to live in, and are the people we choose to be, and I see no reason to exist in a state of perpetual victimhood, especially when, most of the time, I am perfectly safe. However, even though you can choose the lens through which you view your world, the reality is that, more often than not, your rights are trampled upon by others, especially if you’re female. And because our society functions on gendered double standards that permeate every aspect of our lives whether we’re aware of it or not, the world you live in as a woman is very different from the world you live in as a man, due to your experiences. That said, I am going to add a disclaimer to the link I am about to post:

Dear Men,

Even though it is important for you to understand that the woman you find attractive has had very different life experiences from yours and lives in a very different reality, you shouldn’t need to think about rape in order to treat her with respect. I actually find it a little offensive that the author of this blog finds it necessary to invoke the “R” word to make her point, whereas simply respecting the rights and priviledges of another human being to spend her time according to her own choosing should be enough. Mind you, I am not offended by the author’s post- on the contrary, part of me thinks it should be required reading for all men. I’m just offended by what it says about the world we live in- that, in order to get a man to acknowledge your rights as a human being, you have to paint yourself as a rape victim. The fact is that respecting someone else’s time should be standard across all genders. I kinda wish she had stated the issue in those terms, instead of implying that all women exist in a state of victimiziation-preparedness. I disagree that, as men, you should look at a woman and see a rape victim waiting to happen. That is disrespectful to her, and victimizing in itself. However, I realize that that isn’t the author’s goal. She is merely trying to get you to understand why women (rightly) have a defensive reaction to being approached by strange men, and that you should act accordingly.

So, with that out of the way, I suggest that you read this handy how-to guide to picking up strange women from Shapely Prose entitled Schrodinger’s Rapist.

Or, for something that might speak your language better, listen to this guy.

I know you’re all very nice guys and all, but, well… here’s the thing about self-identified “Nice Guys”, who would never do anything to hurt a lady…

But anyway, enough about that topic.

Let’s take a look at a 19th Century view on spooning.

Because I felt like it, that’s why.

-Rae

May 25, 2011

Oh, John DeVore.

The Frisky-Mind of Man: What He’s Thinking During Sex

-Rae

May 21, 2011

And the big announcement I’ve been hinting at is… THE RAPTURE DIDN’T HAPPEN!

Okay, I’m sure we all saw that coming. But what’s really exciting is that I’m working on a new graphic novel entitled “Testament”. It’s a beautiful, fun project that’s been rattling around in my brain for ten years, and I’m finally pushing myself to complete it. Check out some of the preliminary sketches:

ZabethCreations

I hope the final product turns out as amazing as it is in my head. I can’t wait to hear what you guys think.  Thanks for reading, and stay tuned for updates!

-Rae

May 19, 2011

I know this has nothing to do with the topics on this blog. I guess I’m just being selfish (and can’t resist a good plug):

Zabeth Creations

A special announcement. Too cool. I can’t wait.

In case you don’t know, this is the artist that does all of the illustrations for this site. The announcement in question? I can’t tell you, but I will tell you that involves the work of a writer as well, a writer you may be acquainted with.

All right, all right, you sniffed me out. It’s me.

Keep an eye on this blog for exciting news. I can’t wait!

-Rae

May 13, 2011

BRIDESMAIDS opens today!!! I can’t wait to go see it! I hope it’s hilarious. I really liked Superbad and 40-Year-Old Virgin, and it would be nice to see a film in the same vein that doesn’t make me feel left out because I’m a woman. Here’s a fun piece Jezebel did on it:

The Many Ways to Say that ‘Bridesmaids’ Won’t Cut Off Your Balls

And more from around the web:

SplitSider: Bridsmaids Review Round-Up

The Star- Bridesmaids: We Do

Slate: Bridesmaids- The Raunchy Women’s Comedy We’ve Been Waiting For

I think I might dust off the old bridesmaid dress for the occasion. If you see a redheaded gal in blue satin in a downtown movie theatre tonight, be sure to say hi.

Always a bridesmaid…

-Rae

UPDATE: Wow, does that thing ever not fit anymore. Hum. Guess I’ll be the girl in the black jeans and Chuck Taylors, then.

UPDATE: Um, Guys? I, um… I can’t get it off.

Um…

This is awkward.

May 11, 2011

Bwah-hahaha-Ha-HA-HAAAAAAAAAAA!!!!!!!!!

Gawker: Did Florida Accidentally Ban Sex?

You animals.

-Rae

May 9, 2011

I think I’ll just throw these up here, and let the content speak for itself. If you read this blog, there’s a good chance you’ll find some of these interesting:

From Jezebel-

Minute Maid Will Get You Engaged

and

The Enduring Appeal of the Badly-Married Lady

And from our friends at the Guardian…

RAPE JOKES!

Happy reading!

-Rae

May 4, 2011

Sorry about the holdup getting new links up here, guys. We’ll get better, I promise.

For the record, I believe that the “war between the sexes” need not exist. We can divide ourselves along gender lines, or we can unite against common foes. Those foes? Prejudice, sexism, oppression, misogyny, just to name a few. And here’s a man who agrees with me:

No Greater Male Supporter

Read that, and if you like it, maybe pass it along to a few (male?) friends. It’s harder to dismiss words as “women’s issues” or “feminazism” if they’re coming from a man.

Also, and this is off-topic, but do you know what bugs me? Pointless cancer “awareness” campaigns. You know the ones- people start posting “A human has a million wishes, a cancer patient has one, thereby proving that cancer patients aren’t human.” as their twitter or facebook statuses- statuses that contain no links to cancer-fighting organizations, lists of symptoms to look out for, ways in which you can donate or volunteer, or even helpful advice. I worry that the more prevalent these useless “viral’ campaigns are, the more complacent we will feel that we’re actually “doing something”, and the more cynical we will become to the condescending tones of cancer-related dialogue.

Well, I finally found a cancer-related video that I would love to see go viral:

David Cornfield Melanoma Fund

Please check this out, post it, and forward it to others. I think you’ll find it worth your time.

Thanks!

-Rae

April 7, 2011

‘I felt alone and dirty. I was very angry, disgusted, a bit scared. I needed help. I told myself what I know victims say all the time: that it was my fault for putting myself in that position. I’ve spent decades telling victims not to blame themselves, but now I truly understand what it means to torture yourself with “Why did I? / How could I?” thoughts.’

Please read this first-hand account from a rape victim, courtesy of the Guardian UK.

‘I’m still struggling to come to terms with how, despite my decades of professional experience, I made the choices that led to me being raped. At no point the evening before had I felt at risk. At no point did I think I was making a bad decision.’

This piece offers a valuable perspective on the experiene of rape, the victim-blaming that comes with it, and the reasons why a victimized person might not choose to turn to law enforcement.

‘This relentless stress means I can’t start coming to terms with what’s happened to me.’

The piece is written by a middle-aged male police detective whose regular duties involve investigating sexual assault cases. But he writes to us not as an officer of the law.

He writes as a rape victim.

‘I’ve always been the one asking the questions. To be on the other side of the table has been a shock – if I investigated a sexual crime now, there are things I would do differently.’

‘I’m a victim first and a police officer second. I’m not the first victim to decide not to press charges, and I won’t be the last… I know this case would be likely to end in court and, from that point, I couldn’t maintain my anonymity.’

‘My experience has led me to seriously contemplate whether I or other officers investigating similar serious sexual assaults put undue pressure on victims.’

Rape is not any more shocking when it happens to man, or at least, it shouldn’t be. It certainly shouldn’t shock us that it comes from a police officer. But this account does offer a unique view, from someone who has been on two sides- the victim’s, and the cop’s.

-Rae

 

April 6, 2011

Further reading found on the internet:

I love this piece on Jezebel. I rarely get a positive response whenever I tell someone that I’m not really into “monogamy”. It’s quite refreshing to read something that really gets people like me.

What Do You Mean You’re Not Monogamous?

A sample page of a fun little blog I found online. I don’t necessarily agree with everything said, but it’s so effectively and charmingly presented, I had to share:

Musings on Life and Love: Mathematical Proof that Women are Just as Promiscuous as Men

Ah, Cracked. They’re going to show up on here a lot.

Whatever you do, promise me that you’ll never follow relationship advice from Cosmo.

Cracked.com- 7 Psychotic Pieces of Relationship Advice From Cosmo

Tanya and I have a huge backlog of online articles that we keep meaning to incorporate into blog posts, but that might not happen for all of them. So you can be sure that this space will be updated fairly often (more often than our blogs anyway- yeah, sorry about that). We’ll keep throwing our favourite tidbits from the internet here as long as you keep clicking.

Thanks for reading!

-Rae

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